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Get your son accustomed to being honest with you
What do you do if your son returns from school using foul language?
Remember first that if you get angry and reprimanded, you may push the child to hide things from you in the future, and not to tell you about what is going on with him outside the house.
Listen to what he wants to say to you calmly, and make him feel that you are with him.
Ask him: Where did he hear that swear word? What might that word mean?
Explain to him that using swear words is a primitive and impolite way of expressing what we want, and that there are better and kinder words that express our feelings and thoughts.
Try to talk to him calmly and relaxed, using humor.
admit to him that unfortunately many people use such expressions in cases of anger and excitement.
And if your son comes to you from school to talk to you, do not say to him: (Stop talking now, go and get me such and such), and (Don't you see that I am busy now, we will talk later).
Listen to him completely and show him all the interest, and let him narrate his story to you freely, and this is not enough, but the mother must initiate a conversation with him and open a dialogue with him.
If he comes back from school, let him talk about his classmates, about his answers to his teachers' questions.
If he reads a story, ask him to tell it to you.
If you find him sad, ask him about his problem.
And remember that dialogue with your child teaches him fluency in speech, helps him arrange his thoughts, develops his personality and brings him closer to you.
The mother should develop the habit of calm dialogue with her child, by asking him some questions to see how he answers them, and getting him used to not raising his voice while speaking, not interrupting speakers, and so on.
You ask him, for example: What would you do if you saw your brother being beaten by his friends? What would you do if you saw an injured child on the road?
Children whose parents rarely speak to them grow up with less self-confidence than those whose parents accustom them to talk and quiet dialogue.
Tips for listening:
- Do not listen with your ears only, but with your entire body, stop the work you are doing from reading, or watching TV and look at your son.
- Try to have something of affection and touch, so put your hand on his shoulder or his hand between your hands.
- Make sure that you listen to what your son says, and feel what he feels in himself, then repeat to your son and in your own words what you heard from him, demonstrating your understanding and appreciation for what he said.
- Try to deduce the feelings that accompany his statements:
When he says: (I do not need you to repeat your orders), this means that he feels humiliated and small, as if he did not understand.
And when he says: (I hate school), this indicates that he is bored and unhappy.
And when he says: (He cannot sleep), this means that he is tense and upset about a matter.
Don't argue with your son, make fun of him, or always give advice and sermons.
- Especially listen to your son when he returns from school, when he goes to sleep, and when he seems to have strong feelings of discomfort and sadness.
Get down to your son's level physically when you listen to him, as this gives him reassurance and a sense of closeness to you.
Hold him to your chest when he is upset or sad, so you give him more opportunity to express.
- Encourage him to talk, and vent what is going on in himself.
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