A shared life needs a strong factor that provides it with continuity and stability. If two people want to travel together for a week, they need a common foundation that attracts them to travel together and tolerate each other.

As for married life, because it is the journey of a lifetime, as they say, it needs strong attractive factors that push the two parties to live together and travel together on the path of life. These attractive factors are numerous, including: children, as they are the fruit of married life that strengthens the bonds of the spouses and enhances their common ties.

The goals of marriage:

Multiple goals, which are: human integration, a sense of reassurance and stability, satisfying the marital side, ... and the continuation of the human race.

The child brings with him a sense of joy and spreads happiness and joy in the house; the father feels happy when he sees his beloved child crawling on the ground, while the mother feels that she has found an outlet for that explosive emotional stock, so she showers her newborn with that divine flood of tenderness.

Children are the natural extension of the parents and are one of the links of the feeling of perfection in humans.

Children and marital happiness:

A child is the fruit of marriage and love, and a home without children is an empty home, devoid of happiness. Children are the source of human joy, and with them a man becomes a compassionate father and a woman a caring mother.

The presence of children strengthens marital relations and increases their strength and power, and hence the child is considered a blessing from Allah Almighty. With the presence of a child, the couple feels that they have achieved one of the most important goals in their shared life, and that they have laid the foundation stone in building a shared future.

The future of the child:

Signs of pregnancy appear on the woman and with it planning for the future of the child begins, and the man begins counting the days and nights waiting for that happy moment when he becomes a father. The woman counts the moments and minutes as she waits for the happy day when the dear guest arrives.

Beautiful conversations begin between the couple about the shape of the child and whether it is a boy or a girl. The child is born and with him the concerns of raising him begin as a responsibility added to the couple who have become parents, who have work to do and thinking about the future of their children.

The child is watching:

The presence of the child will impose itself on the behavior of the spouses towards each other: the man will take all precautions during the conversation and will avoid as much as possible using offensive words and talk that would provoke his wife, and in return the woman will be more vigilant in her positions towards her husband and her dealings with him, and the couple will be keen to provide a calm atmosphere full of warmth and tenderness for their child to enjoy happiness.

The child is a new burden:

Some people imagine that children are just new burdens added to their burdens, so some couples are determined not to have children for a period of time in order to enjoy life more and more.

If some people think that children will be factors that disrupt the course of married life, they are unaware that the arrival of the child will eliminate family disorder and will be an important factor in establishing the pillars of stability and love between the spouses and strengthening their common bonds.

In our opinion, it is necessary for the couple to think about raising children in the early days of their marriage, as this issue, in addition to being a human and religious duty, has a major role in strengthening marital ties, and perhaps the times that parents spend with their children are the happiest, most joyful and most joyful.

We should point out two important points:

First: Having children is what raises the status of the spouses and makes them equal to parents, which is a matter of great importance from a religious perspective, in addition to the fact that the child gives a sense of sufficiency and responsibility, which are two very important matters.

Second: In the event of a conflict between the spouses, the spouses never feel that they have reached the end point, as children are strong shared bonds that play a role in strengthening relations between the spouses, as a cohesive family and a single entity.

Conflict is a natural state in family life that may have its positive side in the spouses discovering the strengths and weaknesses in their shared life, and then changing some of their positions, and the beginning of a new era of marital life based on solid foundations. In all cases, we must observe Allah Almighty in all our actions and positions, for He alone is our refuge and support in this life, and He alone is the one who defends us if we believe in Him.