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To use illeism, a powerful cognitive-reframing tool, take a note from Grossmann’s study and journal in the third person about your conflicts. You might practice illeism during a daily 15-minute morning brain dump, which will not only reduce rumination and make you wiser but also alleviate the internal triggers, or negative feelings, that drive you to distraction. Conquering internal triggers is the first step in my four-step model to become "Indistractable."
If you’re not the type to keep a diary, you can get those same benefits by visualizing your conflicts from a third-person perspective or relaying them to yourself in the third person, either aloud or in your head.
Think of a recent conflict with a romantic partner, a friend, or boss, or picture a significant life decision you’ve had to make. Describe that situation in the third person.
Here’s a one-sentence example if I were to try illeism: I’d replace “I was annoyed that they complained to me about distraction but hadn’t read Indistractable” with “Nir was annoyed that they complained to him about distraction but hadn’t read Indistractable.”
If you’re talking to yourself rather than writing, make it more realistic by addressing yourself in the mirror: Pretend you are a therapist or some other wise figure and give advice to your reflection, the “client.”
Using illeism to combat rumination will do wonders for controlling your attention and boosting your focus, ultimately helping you to develop the most important skill of the future: being "Indistractable."
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