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Here's a good way to relieve yourself of the burdens of the house, and help prepare your children for adult life, all at once!
In Australia, children seem to be entertained, so that we are surprised when we hear that there are adults - in their twenties - who live in homes where the oldest person prepares food and clothes for them! Many Australian children don't grow up (meaning they don't take responsibility for themselves or fend for themselves) until they reach their early twenties, and this is especially true of boys. Your husband may be one of them!
As for all over the world from Nepal to New Guinea to Nicaragua; It is natural for a child to have responsibilities to bear. The child is in the care of an adult (that is, not left unattended as is the case with many well-to-do Western children), takes on a range of daily tasks which he does with calm, contentment and a clear sense of pride, and of course there is time to play. The result is that this working childhood flows gently and effortlessly into a mature life. Where did we get the idea that childhood is nothing more than a “waiting room” that precedes the beginning of real life?
Can we do a better job of helping our children prepare for self-sufficiency in adulthood? Of course, and perhaps one way to do this is to give them a job to do. You can start at a very early age - from two years old - where the child can perform a small daily task such as setting cutlery.
The tasks will increase month by month; Choose easy organized tasks such as taking care of the child himself, in addition to his participation in work that serves the requirements of the family as a whole, and since the child reaches the age of four, he can prepare the table, and he can return the dishes to the kitchen sink, and as the child grows, you will find it easy to add More tasks. Remind your children of their tasks? Follow them until they get to the point where they themselves remember what to do. Praise them, and be proud of them, but do not exaggerate, for they do not work miracles. They do what needs to be done.
These days, dire consequences have emerged as a result of the individuals’ self-esteem and interest in praising their children and appreciating them for their efforts. It is more important to remember that self-esteem stems from participation, and without the child knowing his place and seeking to participate, he will have a narcissistic image of himself. And it turns into a big balloon that the world will deflate when it goes away from the praise of mother and father.
It is such a gradual automatic method that makes the next stages of life easier to skip later. The adolescent who has been used to being cooperative since the onset of awareness will not be able to abandon his role, and it will simply become a routine in his life. You expect this young person, by the time he turns 18, to do as much work as any of the parents, such as cook at least one family meal a week, or be in charge of one of the family errands. But if the children are going to share the work among themselves, they can be given a mix of work that they like and enjoy, but in addition to a part of the work that they do not like, so that the matter is completely realistic, as is the case for a mature person.
And what about studying? Some adjustments can be made in exam times and associated stress. But in general, studying and housework should simply be "their daily work", and studying should not prevent them from participating in housework.
Remember, you are developing their competence in all the basic aspects of life such as cooking, cleaning, laundry, animal care, budgeting, time management as well as negotiation and teamwork! So when your children leave home and get married, they will be able to take care of themselves on their own.
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