There is nothing that Allah has made lawful that is more hateful to him than divorce, and there is nothing that is more hateful to Allah Almighty than a house that is ruined in Islam by separation, that is, divorce...

This is what the holy law sees, as whatever the justifications that the spouses see - or in the eyes of one of them - as a reason for choosing divorce, the consequences of this decision are bad, and its consequences are mostly dire, and the material and moral losses affect all members of the family, especially the children...!!

They are the victims of that bitter decision! As they find themselves between two fires: the separation of a father or the separation of a mother...

They are in the state of loss, when they are shaken by the shock of the collapse of their family edifice, whose stake held them together and whose tent contained them...

The divorce conflict makes them feel distracted and lose stability... as they see a rift in the family's leadership center, and rivalry existing among the family's authority...

Here!!! Pain squeezes the heart of that little girl, as she witnesses a tense atmosphere between her parents, and she cannot find an explanation that can heal her frightened, terrified heart...

While the young boy searches for a safe atmosphere, to find peace away from this vortex that wants to drag him into a field of conflict in which he finds himself confused on whose side he stands!!!??...

The family medicine specialist and psychoanalyst says: “The constant war between the father and mother causes poisoning of the atmosphere in the home and causes them to become preoccupied with their conflict and forget about the children. When parents quarrel almost constantly, separation can then calm the intensity of life.”

However, the negative effects left by the consequences of divorce occur because the separation mechanism lacks a rational and calm form of understanding!!

The wrong behavior of the mother and her family, and the father and his family, such as screaming, threats, and fighting sometimes... affects the children to a terrifying degree.

In addition to the fact that children do not understand the crisis of separation; they feel fear and anxiety because of the escalation they witness on the part of the father and mother.

This is what creates the language of hatred and revenge in the souls of children, when the mother fills their minds with hatred for their father and their uncles, or lurks around to annoy her ex-husband by making his children alienate him and stand by her side.

Or it may be the opposite, as the father is the one who exploits the children towards their mother and maternal uncles.

This pollutes the purity of the children, and causes them to fall into serious educational deviations that may accompany them until adolescence, making them victims of bad morals and reprehensible customs... Some children may be exposed to psychological diseases such as depression, epilepsy, phobia, hysteria, and other psychological conditions, which affects their development. And their safety, and it is harmful to their academic and academic progress, and even to the style of their relationships and the style of living in society, especially when they read in the faces of people and acquaintances a silent conversation... and perhaps they hear it: that they are the children of a torn family and a divorced mother!

If the spouses choose to divorce, they should not resort to war, and their concern should be the psychological safety of their children. The fact that they have separated does not mean the end of the journey. Rather, there are still outstanding responsibilities and shared duties that are inseparable from them no matter what happens.

And let them be rational, to the utmost rationality. In order to protect their children from loss!

It is recommended that they justify to their children the reasons for divorce and explain it to them in a way that achieves convictions and reassurances that put their minds at ease.

A family medicine specialist stresses the necessity of explaining the reasons for separation to children and talking to them constantly. To avoid leaving them prey to their feelings and their attempts to find explanations for the situation.

Let the mother fear her Lord in using her children as a weapon with which to take revenge on her ex-husband, and let the father fear Allah in inciting the spirit of hatred in the souls of his children towards their mother by keeping them away from her!

This is forbidden by Islamic law, and no one is harmed by this dispute except the children, who may be provoked by these situations and cause them to flee home and fall victim to exploitation or abuse of alcohol, smoking, drugs, or perhaps suicide.

Therefore, parents are advised, when making the decision to separate, to consult specialists in psychology or family counseling to find out how to deal with their children in order to protect them from negative effects to the greatest extent possible. The most important thing is that they try to look at the matter through their children’s eyes.