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One of the wonderful things about boys is that they are very straightforward, and everything shows them, even the signal they give us to tell us they are ready to be disciplined. When they are 18 months old, they start to resist those around them. They may move to this stage suddenly, although they usually increase the intensity of their resistance and the extent of its recurrence gradually. As for distraction and calming down, they are ineffective in reducing their outbursts of anger. Our children at this age insist on getting what they want and cling to it for longer than before. They get angry and get hung up on their little problems instead of being convinced to get out of it. At the same time, parents, who used to be calmer before, become impatient.
Whatever change we notice in our children in this period, we have to introduce them gradually to discipline. Any sudden transition from total indulgence to conditional behavior may generate tantrums, which you are indispensable. However, we need this transition, and this may require some firmness from us. In the end, we had almost two years to figure out what our children wanted and needed, and we worked to secure it for them without any condition. However, at this point, we expect them to adapt to us, while of course we continue to provide for their needs. We start by insisting on the things we want our children to do.
Parents who are not used to insisting despite their children's tantrums can lose their temper at this stage. For some, this may be reason enough to quickly drop the whole issue. However, the power of determination motivated by love is within us. We find it in personal love, that is, the love that prompts us to think of the person we are raising, and not only of the child who does not want to take milk now.
Persistence is much better than trying to trick our kids into doing things they don't want to do. This happened with a married couple and their eldest daughter who used to make a fuss whenever it was time for bed. The parents stopped urging her and no longer demanded sternly that she go to her bed. Instead, the father entertained her and played with her on the stairs leading to her bedroom. He would come out of the living room and would do anything for you to follow. When the girl was three years old, he dressed up as a clown to get her to go to bed. If this father plays the role of a clown when she is three years old, what will he do when his daughter turns fifteen? Wouldn't it have been much easier for him to train her to do it differently from the start? It would have been more useful for him to say to her: (It's time to sleep), and carry her to her bed until this matter becomes a routine habit for her.
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