Help your shy child become social
4:11:19 2024-05-08 106

Wouldn't you be surprised if I told you that the reason behind your son's excessive shyness is (you)?!

Yes; the amount of “no’s” he heard from you exceeds any other word. Which made him respond subconsciously to your strong will that prevented him from engaging in social experiences.

Of course, you are concerned for his safety in prohibiting him, but you must provide an alternative because the child after the age of six, especially in school, he will face difficulty in adapting to the social nature of school, which puts him at risk in communicating with his fellow students. In order to develop his social skills and dissolving his shyness he has to develop his skills in communicative situations with others on the verbal and physical levels, and increase his self-confidence, and encourage him to be bold, especially in situations in which he feels shy. Among the tips that are useful to parents in helping their child to overcome the state of shyness are: -

  • Have him receive the guests and participate in providing the necessary water, pastries, and juices, for example, and welcome them with generous and kind words.
  • Take him with you on special occasions, introduce him to relatives and friends. Encourage him to behave like an adult by exchanging greetings and shaking hands, and teach him what he should say and how to compliment others.
  • Do not force him to be friends with someone he does not know all at once, but rather gradually engage with him, especially in the first weeks of starting kindergarten or school, and understand his anxiety and fear.
  • Encourage him to play with the children, and walk with him when he starts playing, and after you see him getting along and interacting, withdraw from it gradually.
  • Do not rebuke him when he expresses his fear and hesitation about staying with people he does not find himself adapting to and has not been familiar with before. Try to divert his attention to what entertains him and attracts him to interact with them.
  • Do not be too considerate of your shy child’s feelings and always be with him. In this way, you establish the continuity of shyness in him. Be firm with him in directing him to communicate with others.
  • Praise him in front of others, such as his friends and relatives, for example. This strengthens his self-confidence, makes him feel more secure.
  • Be his role model in social behavior. The child derives social qualities from his parents.
  • Help him participate in seminars, celebrations, and events, or in presenting an effective activity such as acting, reciting a poem, or Quranic recitation.
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